Letting it Get to You
The thing about living abroad, especially in a culture as different as China’s, is that it becomes very easy to blame whatever problems you have on the country/culture, when really they’re just regular problems. Because life abroad is just harder than life at home–even if you speak the language, there are cultural cues and references that all but the most experienced China vets are going to miss–it’s easy to misinterpret. When you’re living somewhere like China, where “foreigners” and “Chinese” are so easily distinguished, it becomes even easier to adopt a sort of “enemy” mentality, whereby anything bad that happens to you becomes the fault of China and/or Chinese people.
The weather here is getting colder–it’s 7 degrees Fahrenheit outside right now–and some of my colleagues appear to be falling into this trap. I like to think that for the most part I’ve avoided it this go-round, although in moments of frustration (generally, when attempting to fight my way through the armies of zombie-like old people at the grocery store) I do find myself thinking things I shouldn’t. Still, my coworkers–well, some of them–seem to be taking things a bit harder. At the moment there is a lot of anger/blame going around, much of it directed at the Chinese staff of our school. They haven’t done anything wrong in particular, but when things don’t work out the way they’re supposed to–and this happens frequently to foreigners who don’t speak the language living in China–they do seem to get blamed.
In particular, the frustration with their English abilities baffles me. Yes, it is their job to work at an English school, but the oldest students they teach are barely ten; it is not their job to comprehend slang and profanity riddled requests from foreigners. It is their job to help us, yes, but getting angry about their English level doesn’t help anyone, and seems a bit ridiculous coming from people who’ve lived in the country for over four months now and still can’t even say their own address to a cab driver.
I won’t name names, nor do I plan to say anything to any of these people, just thought it would be an interesting phenomenon to make note of. Coming soon, though, something that I think really is China’s fault.
